@DarrenCriss Good Morning (x)
This is not my usual post. But it’s something I had to share. As you read this, imagine how your reaction would differ if this story were being told by a woman, talking about how her husband treated her.
I have been separated from my wife for over a year, though we continue to share a house. We live on separate floors. We share the house because we need to parent our son together, and because we can’t afford to maintain two households.
I’d like to tell you a story, illustrating one reason why I am divorcing her. This is an example of the treatment I have received over the past fourteen years.
This evening, while she was drinking her wine, my estranged wife took exception to the fact that I wanted to talk about how tense she’s been. She said she didn’t want to talk about it.
I left the room (so as to comply with her request).
I went upstairs to use our tiny guest bathroom. She began to yell and throw things around the kitchen, then eventually charged up the stairs and into the bathroom, just as I was finishing and getting ready to leave. She confronted me there, holding her half-full wine glass in her hand. Her voice got louder, her gestures wilder.
She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your emotions responsibly like an adult?”
She said, “Yes!! It’s because you want to go off and take a vacation with your girlfriend!” Then she threw the contents of her glass in my face and smashed it against my bare chest.
The results are pictured here.
I stood there, with shattered glass at my feet, glass shards sticking in my skin, bleeding, for five minutes or so. I asked her to move so that I could leave. She waved the broken stem of the glass in the air and said, “Leave!! Who’s stopping you?”
I told her she was standing between me and the door. I felt threatened.
She laughed and said, “You’re 6 foot 3 and 250 pounds! You can’t feel threatened by me!”
I said, “You just broke a glass on my chest and cut me. You’re standing there with the stem in your hands. Yes. I feel threatened.”
She said, “No, you don’t.”
I asked her to move out of the way and let me pass. I didn’t want her to think I was pushing her or threatening her.
She held her ground, waved the broken stem and shouted, “Go on! Leave! I’m not stopping you!”
After I asked her repeatedly, she finally moved a bit and I left, carefully stepping over the broken glass.
I have posted this here as evidence, and to help those who may think that size and gender make a difference when abuse is concerned. People who, like my estranged, think some have permission to feel threatened and some don’t.
Abusers come in all sizes and genders.
She and I went to a half dozen therapists over the years. At each initial session, every therapist took a look at me, then at her (5’4” 150 lbs.). Then he or she would gravely ask my wife, “Do you feel safe?”
None ever thought to ask me.
Thanks for listening.
BUT IM REBLOGGING THIS BECAUSE MEN NEED JUST AS MUCH SUPPORT AS WOMEN DO.
Abuse is abuse.
It doesn’t matter who it is, how big they are, or their gender.
Author Name: Cissy V. Black
Title: Coming Home
Written For: r_u_ok_annie
Summary: They have just married, Blaine played the piano, their family and friends are there… Everything’s perfect. But there is just one way to reach home.
Oh my god. This made me cry. Will you really be there for me?
to all my followers<3<3
To everyone & to anyone :)
i will always be there for my followers, if only they ever hit me up =/
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anonymous or not, I will help you with any problem you guys have. I will respond privately, I’m here. I promise. <3
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i hope you know this guys. i am ALWAYS here for you. always.
<3 Always here
I will post my fanfiction today, it’s 600 smtg words long, I tried to make it longer but that was all I could do. I hope that’s not a problem and, also, where are we going to send you the links to. I probbably won’t be on the net the rest of the day so, would you mind if I sent you the link in an ask to this blog?
“he wants to do me but we’re just friends”
a club founded by sam evans and kurt hummel.
OMG this is gifset is just AJGHSF purrrrfect
wtf? am i the only one who has already seen this pic like 100 times and only noticed the bottle now imeanlike#thoseeyes
“its not you… it’s your music taste”
The thing is i would actually say this
1. Like the rest of us, Blaine Anderson has a thing for Darren Criss.
2. Unlike the rest of us, Darren Criss can say no to Blaine Anderson.
They’re done shooting Glee this season.
You know what that means?
better start preparing for the season finale now.
it doesn’t even matter what show this is for
THE NEWS JUST SAID IF U LIVE IN BOSTON THEN PLEASE VISIT A HOSPITAL AND ASK IF THEY NEED A BLOOD DONOR THEY ARE DESPERATE 18+ SPREADTHEWORD
Okay there was no way I could scroll past this
WAIT WHAT IS THAT
thank you :)